5 things I wish I'd learned BEFORE I grew up.

Sometimes along this crazy journey of life, stuff comes up and I scream:

"Why didn't I know this sooner?"

"Why did no one tell me that?! OMG life would have been so much easier if I just knew that!"

I wistfully wish I had an older sister who taught me the ins and outs of life, to learn from and to confide in.

But I didn't, what I did have was a rocky road of figuring a load of this stuff out for myself. Which is what I needed to do.

Maybe you need to too, but I feel like time is running out, and this stuff needs to be shared.

So I've complied a list of the top 5 things I wish I'd learned before I was 30. Knowing this kinda sh*t now makes my life so much easier - I hope it makes yours easier too.


1. Hands down the best advice I have ever been given is:

"What people think of you is none of your business."

When a friend said this to me it actually cut through me a bit. I was a bit shocked and taken a back. What people thought of me was practically all I thought about! To be told is was none of my business was, well, embarrassing!

As hard as it was to hear it's SO true... read it again..

What people think of you is 100% nothing to do with you.

People will think what they think about you no matter what you do. You can't change people's perceptions about you and most of the time what they dislike about you they dislike about themselves. Never people please and don't hold yourself back in fear of what people 'might' think. Most of the time what you think people think about you is completely false and made up and usually - wrong.

Stop caring about what people think of you and focus on your opinion of yourself. The only person who's opinion matters is your own. Make that one count.

2. That thing you loved to do when you were 3, 6, 8, 10 - do it now too.

Do it all the time.

Don't stop doing it. Don't give it up. Even if you've had a bad experience but you still long to do it - do it. Just because you grow up doesn't mean that you should stop doing what you love.

That 'thing' is most likely your true passion, you're true gift. Don't turn your back on it - keep doing it.

Do whatever lit you up when you were 6 - even if it seems childish. Do it more - make your soul and heart happy. 

Having a happy soul and heart makes you into a happiness magnet - good things and experiences and opportunities will be drawn to you like magic. Make your heart happy and do what you loved to do as a child now. 

3. Life isn't about stuff. 

When you take away your stuff (your car, make-up, fake hair, eyelashes, handbags, clothes etc) who are you? 

Instead of chasing after stuff, chase after experiences which will enrich you as person. Experiences that make you interesting to be around, experiences which humble you and make you feel good. Experience that teach you gratitude, empathy, team work, strength and ones where you make a difference to some one or some thing.

The measure of success isn't how much stuff you own. It isn't about if your stuff is better than someone else's stuff. Your stuff does not matter. 

Stop chasing after stuff. 

4. Law of Attraction is a real thing. 

Books like "The Secret" have made LOA really popular and learning that I was the creator of my reality 4 years ago was mind blowing. 

The LOA is based on the law of "like attracts like".

Birds of a feather, flock together. What you think about, you bring about.

In short: your thoughts create your reality and you attract what you are, both in the positive and negative.

Want someone to love you? Love yourself.
Want success? Think successfully.
Crave happiness? Act happy, think happy.

You are the creator of your reality.

Your mind should be your ally not your enemy.
It is why I love positive affirmations so much and why I love positive visualisations. The whole LOA/manifesting subject is vast and would take so much explaining - but for now keep it simple - You create your reality. Keep your thoughts and visions positive and believe in yourself. 


5. Being sensitive is a thing. 

And it doesnt mean you're weak. It means you're powerful and very much needed in this world. High Sensitives are sometimes called Empaths or Ambiverts.

Being a Highly Sensitive or an Empath can be generalised into feeling and being:
-Sensitive to noise/smells/tastes
-Sensitive to busy places, lots of people - feeling overwhelmed and fussy
-Get easily irritated by uncomfortable clothes or labels
-Appear shy or introverted - especially around new people
-Feel emotions like embarrassment as actual physical pain
-Sensitive to peoples emotions or energy - other peoples emotions can sometimes be felt
-Need lots of rest and alone time
-Susceptible to burn out/exhaustion
-Often seen as a bit psychic/old soul/been here before and usually know and understand whats going on for people without being told - you can sense whats wrong
-Feeling of being lost, alone and like no one understands you

Its a real life thing. Dr Elaine Aron and Heidi Sawyer both have excellent books and research on the topic. If you think you're an empath or High Sensitive I highly recommend their books. 

Knowing this and finding this out for myself was life changing. I finally understood why life had been so hard and why I felt the way I felt. 

I totally believe more and more HS/Empaths are being born in the world. I'm 100% convinced. Why? Because the qualities we possess as sensitives are needed within the world to bring into balance the masculine, technology fuelled, results and target driven environment we live in. There will come a time where our sensitive and intuitive nature and skills will be called for in businesses, hospitals, education, world wide corporations. And if your sensitive I hope you jump on board and follow my journey as I write about my own experiences as a intuitive sensitive and produce stuff to help you deal with your sensitivity.

Light and Love

Kathy xx

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Valentines Self-Love - How being kinder to yourself can increase confidence.

So I had the idea of using Valentines day (or any day for that matter) to carve out some time for some self love instead

Sound too cringefull?! It doesn't have to be! I've gathered 3 simple top tips together below to help you be kinder to yourself.

Self love can be simple, powerful and effective for making us more confident and comfortable in our own skin. A little self-confidence goes a long way in helping us cope with stress - read on for 3 simple tips which you can start using right now!

1. Give your inner voice a makeover.

Listen to you inner voice. What words or dialogue do you repeat? 

What we focus on we become. What we think about we attract - it's basic Law Of Attraction. 

A friend of mine used to repeat to hefself 'annoying', as in 'she was annoying'. Sure enough people thought she was annoying and treated her so. This left her feeling isolated, disliked, low in confidence and ... you guessed it - annoying.

Disempowering inner language can have a huge impact on life experiences,  how we treat ourselves and how others treat us. Here are some examples of how you can change your inner voice to be more empowered.

Disempowering: "No one likes me."
Empowering: "I choose to love myself and nurture my inner confidence, the right person will appear at the right time."

Disempowering: "I'm going to fail."
Empowering: "I choose to meet my challenges with determination and courage."

Disempowering: "I have so much to do. I'm never going to get it all done"
Empowering: "I choose to use my time wisely, I give each of my commitments the time and focus they need. I have nothing to fear"

2. Re- vamp your Self Talk. 
How do you talk about yourself to others and to yourself? Is your vocabulary full of 'I can't, I'm rubbish, I won't, I'll never, I'm not, 
I haven't. ... etc?

Limiting self talk is literally putting limitations on what you can and can't do in life.  You're stopping yourself before you even begin.

The most powerful phrase you can use is: 'I AM...' positive self talk all starts with "I am". Every time a self-sabotaging thought about yourself pops into your head, silence it with a positive I AM statement.

For example:

 
Self-hate: I'm unlovable / I'm not pretty
Self-love: I am loved and loving - I am all that I need to be. I am safe.

Self-hate: I'm going to fail - I'm so stupid
Self-love: I am powerful beyond measure and I have nothing to fear.

Self-hate: I'm so rubbish at maths
Self-love: I am a confident maths student, I am learning everyday.

3. Recall what's already in you.

Whenever you're feeling really low about yourself or you're struggling with a  situation, think of a time when you did something amazing - a time when you surprised yourself or you achieved something outstanding.

Journal it out and free write what it was like, what qualities you showed, what did it feel like to be successful? Gather a list of qualities that you already are - and remember how powerful you already have been.

AND Finally.... use the word YET. .. If you find yourself talking bad of yourself, try these:

I haven't got a boyfriend. .. yet.
No one loves me... yet.
I can't do.... XYZ... YET.

Give yourself the option and the possibility to achieve whatever you want to achieve by using YET. Its powerful!

Wishing you a loving Valentines - a self - loving valentines ;)

I'm defo going to be cracking open the Epsom salts, incense and candles - I may even use last weeks roses and use the petals in my bath! 

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